I was really upset when Sherlock started blaming John for marrying Mary. Asking him, essentially, ‘How dare you be upset that this woman isn’t who she said she was? How dare you be heartbroken and confused? You must’ve liked it.’ It’s the same attitude thrown at victims of any abuse or even rape. The same attitude thrown at people with mental health problems, and addictions, and it’s played off as a way to show Sherlock and Mary just… ‘really know John’? It makes them unlikable
And I suppose, to a point, you’re meant to dislike Sherlock (even though no body does. No one calls him out on his bullshit because he just shoves the ‘I’m a high fun-’ Yes, we know. But I’m not supposed to dislike him in regards to his best friendship with John. He saves his life, he gives him hope, he loves him, it’s supposed to be beautiful. But sometimes all the relationships in this show just make me sad.
I agree, it was real victim-blaming.
I’m never sure if you’re meant to dislike Sherlock or not. I think you’re meant to see him as a bit of a loveable rogue - he says/does awful things, but it’s emphasised that he actually does care about the people around him so it kind of justifies it (which, again, is very similar to the narratives around abuse). His relationship with John, especially, is seen as really important (and was a focus of this season, with John’s grief at their parting, John asking him to be his best man, Sherlock’s concern when the truth about Mary came out - all episodes had a strong theme of Sherlock and John’s relationship). But it isn’t backed up by Sherlock’s behaviour - he still treats John terribly.
AFI // Miss Murder
Princess Margrethe of Denmark and Princess Beatrix of the Netherlands at the pre-wedding dinner for the wedding of Prince Juan Carlos of Spain and Princess Sophia of Greece in May 1962.
Members of the Norwegian Royal Family: Princess Martha Louise and Crown Princess Mette-Marit of Norway
The thing about Floor and Simone being racist comes from this: we’re not talking about a hug, or a kiss, or touching their hair (which I agree would be creepy). They refused to shake a hand or put an arm around the person they are taking a photo with (which most people do and take for granted). But they refuse to do it only in South America. They do shake hands and put their arms around people for photos in Europe. And it’s NOT a cultural thing, since Anneke, Sharon and Charlotte all put their arms around people for photos (and come from the same country, Holland), and many other European musicians do it as well. At first I thought they were like this everywhere and that would be ok, they have every right to not want to be touched. But it’s extremely disappointing to be told not to touch them and then see photos of them with other fans where they are touching them without issues. I don’t know if they are racist or not, all I know is that I, as a fan, felt singled out and rejected.
oh that’s funny. I’m from North America and I’ve had Simone not put her arm around me for a photo.
Members of the British Royal Family: Autumn Phillips, Princess Anne, Princess Royal, Zara Phillips Tindall, Sophie, Countess of Wessex, Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge, and Princess Margaret, Countess of Snowdon
my grandfather and my great aunt both spoke 6 languages fluently and I remember hearing them have a conversation and they would switch languages mid sentence because what they were describing could be more succinctly said in a different language and that’s so cool if I want to express that something is really great I will say the word hella before an adjective